Alabama 

Dear Velvet Tarot Column

Dear Velvet 

October 2004

Dear Velvet,
My best friend and I have had a major falling out.  We have been friends for 12 years, and this tension and lack of communication between us is hurting me terribly.  She won't answer my calls at all.  My question is whether we can mend this rift between us.

Thanks for any information you can offer.  I appreciate this and having won a reading.

Sincerely,
Calico

Dear Calico

The card of Hindrance has appeared in response to your situation.  It indicates that fate has blocked this path for you at this time.  Your situation is going to require more time for healing.  The woodland fairy in the card image presents an unavoidable delay, however this is merely a temporary setback.  Try another approach to attain your goal.  Find another way to communicate with your friend -- such email or sending a letter to her.

This card indicates that you need to view this problem for a different perspective to find an alternative solution.  She will likely continue to let your calls go unanswered.  Look at the situation from her perspective and try to see how she is feeling about what has happened between the two of you.  It's not a matter of deciding who is right or wrong in the situation, but trying to empathize with her so that you can better understand what she is feeling.  By evaluating this, it may help you know what to say in a new form of communication.

Lessons have likely been learned and may still be learned in the near future in regard to this situation.  But sometimes, as human beings, we have to learn things the hard way.  Yet the lessons are still valuable ones to help us make better choices in the future.

The issue here is delayed for healing, but in time, healing and mending of the rift between you and she can happen.  Be patient and be aware of new opportunities to get in touch with your friend.  Through time, I believe that you and she will be able to talk again.  Whatever has happened seems to have been a major issue, so try not to expect that it will all be forgotten easily.  It will just take time, but through your patience and understanding, she will likely come around.

Good luck to you!!

Velvet Angel