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Dear Velvet Tarot Column

Dear Velvet 

February 2008

Dear Velvet,
My husband left me two weeks ago and said he had a lot of thinking to do.  I already know he cheated on me; he confessed.  But I really still love him so much and will take him back if he will return.  So that is my question -- will my husband come back to our marriage?

Thank you Velvet, so much!

K.A.T.

Dear K.A.T.,
To forgive this man of the ultimate relationship sin, I can see that you really do love him very much.  That is truly the key in the situation -- to be able to forgive him as it seems you are willing to do.  He might not see your willingness right away, and it seems that he is ashamed of his choices in what he has done.  The Three of Rods shows me that you and he are still strongly connected.  Unfortunately, it seems to have taken him a journey down the wrong path in order to discover the depths of this bond that you and he share.  That bond is important to help you and this man re-establish common ground and the "rules for living" within this relationship.

This card does not show an immediate return to you, but there is a lot of potential for him to finally return to the marriage.  In the meantime, K.A.T., it is essential that you and he keep in touch and communicate with one another in order that the two of you can work this out.  You will likely go through a time of waiting and watching to see what develops, but there is opportunity to use this devastating experience to build something stronger between the two of you.  Keep in mind that is must be a teamwork effort.  It will take work on both of your parts to strengthen this relationship.

The Three of Wands suggests that you may hear from him soon, and the two of you may discuss a time to meet and talk.  It seems that you and your husband could use some adventure in the relationship to help rekindle the spark that still exists in the relationship.  I feel that he still loves you and does not truly want to leave you alone.  You both seem to be compatible overall, so there is hope for you, K.A.T.  Again, I want to emphasize the importance of communication with this man.  Somewhere along the way, there was a flaw in the foundation of this relationship, but as he has confessed his unfaithfulness to you, this shows honesty on his part.

You'll need to give him the time that he needs to come to terms with what he has done -- and give yourself time as well -- but the Three of Wands is a positive energy for relationships and indicates that successful conclusions will eventually be reached.

Many Blessings!

Velvet Angel