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Dear Velvet 

January 2007

I would like to know if my husband and I will divorce....I just met this guy on the net and he lives in the same town as me.  He knows that I am married etc.......He still wants to meet me.....I don't know what to do with my love life anymore.  I don't get the attention from my husband (anyway thats how I feel).   I feel like am here with him for convenience.   He works long hours, but when we are both on days off, he prefers to hang out with his buddies etc.....I've been feeling alone for a long time now....please let me know what the future holds regarding my love life.

Thank you very much for your time.  Very appreciated.

Have a great day!!
Linda

Dear Linda,
The Nine of  Pentacles does not suggest that a divorce is coming up.  But this card encourages you to think long and hard before you take that route that may bring up this kind of a decision . . . for this is a card that indicates that there is still something of value in the marriage you have.  Perhaps with more communication of your feelings to your husband, he might try to make you feel more loved and included in his world.

But if you choose to engage in a new relationship, the Nine of Pentacles also has a lonely side that could make you a far more lonely person that you are right now in the marriage.  This card's indication is that you may decide to try to stay in the marriage and work on a better relationship with your husband, because security issues could also be a major concern for you as well.

The Nine of Pentacles indicates there is a chance that you and your husband could rekindle the flame and deepen the marital bond.  It is at least worth a try.  Sometimes this energy is one that does make you feel lonely . . . perhaps left out, ignored, or unimportant.  But in order to feel truly confident about the direction of your love life and your future overall, it seems to be in your best interests to see if the marriage can again become one that is satisfying to you and one that you can feel content with -- at least more than how you are feeling just now.

This card strongly advises not to eliminate this marriage from your life just yet . . . because there is still value in it, but perhaps it is "covered up" right now by other aspects in life.  If you try to uncover this relationship from what has gotten in the way and has caused you to feel unimportant and left out, then you can try to work it out with your husband.  If there is not cooperation and compromise on your husband's part, it would be a different story.  But the Nine of Pentacles urges you to give your husband a chance to see and understand how you are feeling.  And then once you know his position on that, you can make better choices.

At this time, however, the cards are not suggesting a divorce coming up for you.  But you might have a chance to improve on what you already have with your husband.

Wishing you the very best in love and happiness!!

Velvet Angel