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Dear Velvet Tarot Column

Dear Velvet 

April 2010

Dear Velvet,
My question is about my marriage.  I am wondering why I feel a distance with my husband.  We've been married almost 17 years and things have been good overall.  But for the last 5 or 6 months, it feels like something has changed. And I don't know if I have done something wrong or what is going on.  I appreicate your insight!  Thank you very much!  

"Gibby"

Dear Gibby,

The Chariot represents the taskmaster of hard control -- which is very much in alignment with the information in the Saturn Cycles reports you ordered (which were delivered to your Inbox yesterday morning, and I trust that by this time you have reviewed those).  So as you know, you are not in an astrological Saturn Cycle presently . . . but your husband is!!  Saturn is being that taskmaster in your husband's life right now, and he is trying to adjust and cope to the changes that he is already feeling with that strong planetary influence.  When you go over his report again, that information can help you greatly understand what he is going through at this time in his life -- and you'll know how to best be there for him during these difficult years of Saturn (yes, 7-1/2 long years, and he just started that cycle last November . . . which resonates with the time you started noticing the changes and the distance in him).

Gibby, I feel that this marriage is going to survive.  The Chariot may be a taskmaster, but it's an energy that also helps put things back on track when they get off course.  You and your husband have been together happily for a lot of years, and I understand that this sudden change can make you afraid of what is happening.  But you and your husband also have fantastic compatibility, as we explored in your Relationship Compatibility Reading last week.  That compatibility is not going to change just because Saturn is in the picture.  But it will be a little harder and a bit more strenuous while your husband finds his footing again.  Your readings and reports, along with the Chariot energy, are strong indications that you and he will survive this current storm.

Your husband is merely trying to cope with changes in his life -- changes that affect many aspects of his world, including work, finances . . . and even the tender area of relationships.  But the Chariot represents victory that is attained through willpower, determination, and self-discipline.  If your husband is open to metaphysical subjects, I hope that you can share with him the Saturn Cycles report that you ordered.  And if he is open to these types of topics, I think he can be tremendously enlightened.  Both of you can understand that all of this is nobody's fault -- not your fault and not his fault -- but that this is a significant time in his life.  And once your husband gets through this process of Saturn, things can be incredibly better for him, for you, and the relationship that you and he have together.  So don't lose faith in this, Gibby!  Try to be there for your husband in the ways that he needs you, and he will appreciate your support.  When he gets moody and irritable, which is out of character for him, you'll understand the concept of a taskmaster and how stressful this period of time can be.  But when someone has support and a person to be there for them, back them up, and love them . . . it can help a lot.  And I know that you and he are very much in love!  So nothing is lost here.  It can be a rocky time, but you and he have the ability to adjust and get through this.

Many Blessings!

Velvet Angel