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Illustrated Tarot Reading For:
Johanne

Card 1:  Nine of Cups - Love and You
It looks like you are very, very happy in this relationship, Johanne!  The Nine of Cups is known as the "wish card" in the Tarot.  It's a great card to see in a reading.  As it comes up in this position to show us how you perceive yourself right now, I don't think you could be happier!  You feel like life and love are finally going your way, and you've gotten what you wished for!  This energy brings a lot of happiness, peace, and fulfillment.  You have relief from worry, anxiety, and fear with the good fortune you've found through this relationship.  And this experience can make you feel like you're on "cloud nine" because there is so much happiness that you've tapped into.

Although I know you have a concern about whether David is cheating on you (or whether he will do so in the future), I can tell you that the cards are NOT pointing to that at all.  But as we go through the cards, you already know what your Achilles Heel is!  You already know that you and this guy get along great . . . but that you make accusations.  DON'T let those accusations ruin a great thing you've got going!  I don't see him cheating on you or having any desire to do so, but if you really don't want to lose him, you do need to be careful not to make false accusations against him.

What I see in the cards is a solid beginning to this relationship.  You and David are now past the initial or "beginning" stages of the relationship.  In fact, you're even past the typical 4- to 6-month "honeymoon period" that relationships go through.  So this relationship is at a stage now of getting down to more serious business as you and he work on building a life together.  Both of you have been hurt by past partners, and it's very important for you to keep in mind how it would feel for him to be accused of cheating or wanting to cheat when that is the very thing that was done to him in past relationships.  I see in the cards here that he wants to make you happy.  He wants to have a healthy, strong relationship with you.  And you're in a great position to play a big role in helping to create that happiness for both of you.

With only one Major Arcana in the entire layout, this shows me that you're going to have a lot of say in how things ultimately work out in this relationship.  A lot is actually within your control to change, improve, or maintain, etc. in this relationship.  And this will come through the day-to-day events of your relationship.  So while we hear some people make complaints that there is nothing they can do about a situation, or they have no choices in a matter . . . that's not true for you.  The cards show that you have the power to change or mold this relationship into what you what -- but not through accusations or manipulation, of course.

You're happy right now.  You're very content with yourself and the relationship you have with David.  And I think, deep in your heart, you know he has not really cheated on you.  But trust is something you will have to work on.  Trust is an essential foundation of a relationship.  And if it's not there, that means the foundation of a relationship is cracked and can break in the future.  But you are exploring this sooner rather than later, so you can see how important all of this is for the future of the relationship.  It's definitely not too late at all to start working on how you perceive the situation in terms of your trust and how you communicate with David.  Because seriously, right now, if you make accusations against him for cheating, when he hasn't done so and has no intention to do so . . . that is the thing that could push him into cheating if he falsely gets accused of it enough times.

The Nine of Cups is like the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow with happiness and wishes coming true.  You are meant to enjoy that great feeling when life is feeling oh-so-fine!  You have an opportunity in front of you to make your dreams come true now.  You have a real chance to be happy in a good relationship, so just make sure you don't take that away from yourself!  I really feel that is the last thing you would want to do.  But at least you are very aware of how your past makes it hard to trust.  And at least you have admitted your own flaw when you mentioned to me that you can tend to be a nag and make accusations.  You are doing that out of insecure feelings due to the past, Johanne -- not because of anything that David has actually done.  So you need to give this guy the fair chance he deserves.  After all, the two of you are living together now.  You both have mutual feelings happening here.

Just remember that David is NOT one of those people from your past that hurt you the most.  I know you and he dated 11 years ago . . . but what this feels like is that it just wasn't the right timing 13 years ago.  I've seen it happen where people reconnect from their past, because they actually found the right person, but it was just the wrong timing for either or both of them.  And it looks like you and he have reconnected in a place of good timing.  So I think you and David are right for one another.  The timing feels good now, even though it just wasn't the best timing in the past (which likely had a lot to do with the fact that he was in a Saturn Cycle all those years ago).  A lot changes over the course of 13 years.  People mature, and they can change for the better.  And they have a better understanding of what they want and need.  So I'm very happy that you've found each other again and have reconnected, Johanne!  This really feels like it can be a positive relationship . . . and that he's "the one" for you.  But you do have to treat him well, just as he treats you.

You are in a place of contentment where love, ideas, creativity, and your relationship flows quickly and easily.  There is such a blissful quality to the Nine of Cups which represents how you feel about yourself in this relationship.  And you know the value of all the work that went into arriving here, and knowing what you went through in the past can help you appreciate what you have now all the more!  All the emotional challenges of the past that irritated you can be resolved.  There's a part of you that is telling yourself to just be more relaxed and happy, and that intuition is very wise!  Be open to all the new possibilities of this relationship and enjoy!  Because as long as you don't let the past smother the present and the future, this relationship can go even further than where it is now!  And that's truly like a great wish to come true -- but you have to let this happen.  It won't help to push David and the relationship away by making accusations or even by being irritated about his texting.  Your real problem would be if he was calling his ex a "bitch" and being totally and completely down on her all the time . . . because if he was instead in that sort of a position, he would have so much baggage that he wouldn't be able to engage in a healthy relationship with you at all.  But he seems to be ready for a real relationship at this time in his life.

Affirmation for the Nine of Cups:  My intentions send energy into motion, and thus, I choose to laugh and love life.  What I envision, I can create - like a wish come true.

Card 2:  High Priestess - Love Situation
The High Priestess is never one to jump to any conclusions about anything.  Instead, she gathers facts to back up her words and actions.  So although you definitely should listen to your intuition, just make sure you are listening to the wise part of yourself versus the part where imagination tends to want to run away with itself.  You are in a good situation, and it's time to go with the flow to see how things develop and take shape.

The energy is very fertile under High Priestess energy, and this indicates that this relationship has a lot of potential to grow into something even stronger and better than what exists now.  You're already very happy with David, and you have opened your heart to his children as well.  And so things can actually get even better as time continues!

You and David are able to support each other on an emotional level.  Letting yourself be open to someone that needs your emotional support, empathy, or advice can help solidify an important relationship . . . and can make you even dearer to that person!  This works both ways, as well, so it means a lot when you see him being there for you, too.

Intuition is what lets you know whether to trust someone or not, and that intuition is usually right.  I don't think your real voice of intuition is screaming that David has cheated or that he would want to cheat.  You're just still hearing the "voices" from past experience of pain and hurt.  But when you look into your heart and how you really feel (with all that wonderful Nine of Cups energy going on as well as the partnership and love card of the Two of Cups that appears in this reading) . . . I don't think you really believe he has cheated on you.  It's just an anxiety created from past experiences.

The High Priestess card shows that you and David have a really special relationship, and it's like there is an unspoken language between the two of you -- where silence says just as much or more than words might convey.  It is truly a special kind of magic to have this form of communication and understanding between two people.  You both understand what the other person needs, and you both are also happy to provide for those needs of each other.  A song comes to mind with this sensation, and that's the one by Alison Krauss which is called "When You Say Nothing At All."

It looks like there is also some great chemistry in this relationship and a strong physical attraction.  You and he feel a connection.  And there is obviously some kind of very special bond here for you and he to reunite after 11 years of time has passed since you and he last dated.  So again, I feel the timing is right for the two of you now.  And in about two years or so, it's even possible for wedding bells to ring if you both should desire to commit yourself in the way of marriage.  Even if one or both of you is shying away from the idea of marriage at this time, things do change through time!  Marriage is not something to push though.  It's a time to go with the flow of things and enjoy what is there as you and he build a relationship and life together.

So if you happen to want marriage, and it seems he doesn't, don't worry about that right now.  Men sometimes have a process that is slower than that of a woman, so the woman can end up wanting to take things to the next level before the man is ready to do that.  If you hope for marriage in the future, the cards are in favor of that -- but in the meantime, be patient and don't push the process faster than it can reasonably go.

Affirmation for the High Priestess:  My dreams are not random; there is a destiny that I am slowly creating.  All good things will happen in their own time.
 

Card 3:  Two of Wands - Love Challenges
In relationships, the key theme of the Two of Wands is cooperation.  This card's energy emphasizes harmony, balance, teamwork, give and take, and sharing the load.  You need to be ready to do your part in this relationship, and also expect David to do the same.  And there really does seem to be a good balance in that for the two of you.  I definitely don't see any big blocks or challenges happening -- outside of what is going on with you internally with your worries from the past that can somewhat block your ability to completely trust David in the present.  But if you will be patient with yourself and the relationship, and give things time . . . the trust will build.  Trust has to be earned, and it won't happen overnight in any relationship!

Three cards numbered 2 have come up in this reading, and that is significant, as the number Two portrays choice, harmony, balance, and partnership.  Two indicates duality and the union of opposites.  This is the number of "branching out," and so you are in somewhat of a waiting period to see what comes next during this "branching" process . . . but it's very important not to push for what you want to be next!  You and David have now taken another step for this relationship by living together.  But if you should desire marriage with him, that is something that still needs some time -- especially if David is not showing signs yet of wanting that.  And whether he is showing those signs or not, the Two of Cups is also in this reading, which is a lovely card for partnerships, love, and marriage.

Marriage will be a possibility in the future, but nothing you have to worry about now as to "when" it may come.  It may take a couple of years for things to move to that step, but within that amount of time, if the subject is brought up . . . both of you will be more ready for it at that time.  You'll have agreement in what you both want, whether marriage is a part of it or not.

One of your challenges can be in the area of patience. For a lot of people, patience is not a strong suit.  But the Two of Wands indicates you need to be patient with this relationship and it's development.  Things are indeed moving, but maybe you feel it all should go even faster than what it is.  Don't rush this relationship right out the back door!

Another important "challenge" to mention with this energy is that you must be very careful not to fall into the trap of thinking or saying things like, "Well, if he really loved me, he wouldn't text his ex-girlfriend."  Or . . . "If he really loved me, he would do 'this' or he wouldn't be doing 'that.'"  It is very dangerous to think like that!  Because it's not a situation of him not loving you just because he's texting or not doing what you want.  So many women make this mistake, and it's a mistake that can be very costly to a relationship!!  So keep that in mind, and don't let yourself fall into that pattern of thinking that can kill the love between two people.  It is very possible for committed men and women to have friends of the opposite sex -- friends that are not a threat to the relationship.  A lot of times, people create those "threats" in their own minds, and it can seriously harm a relationship.

The dreams you and David share are an essential part of your bond.  It's the "glue" that ultimately holds things together even through the bumpy and uncertain times.  Although it may be awhile yet before a special dream (such as marriage, for example) becomes reality with your partner, the journey can be a magnificent one when working together and cooperating as a team.  This can be a time of enthusiasm, adventure, and confidence in the relationship.  So as long as you can get past the negative thinking, needless worry, and the accusations because of your past . . . this can be a fantastic relationship for you and David.

You can either be paranoid -- where you think the worst will happen . . . or you can be pronoid -- where you feel the best will happen!  It goes without saying that being pronoid is the best option :-)

Essentially, Johanne, you hold the power within the realms of your own control or choices to "make" or "break" this relationship.  As mentioned, there is only one Major Arcana card in the reading, and that shows you have a lot of choice going on in your favor here.  There is nothing really "out of your control" in the situation.  And so as you know, one of your choices revolves around how you think -- and how you will or won't let the past ruin a good thing you've got going in the present!  And if you do verbally make accusations or communicate invalidated suspicions to David, then you can push him right out of your life.  I know that is not the choice you want to make!

So this card wants you to be aware of just how important your choices are in this matter -- and how those choices will create what you get in the future.  If you really thought in your heart that he was cheating on you, I don't think you even would have moved in with him.  And frankly, I don't see in the cards that he has cheated on you.  I don't see a desire in him to do so.  Such a desire would only be created if you make false accusations or make too many jealous remarks that can push him away.  He's a guy who has a real desire to please you and make you happy . . . not hurt you.  So you need to be sure not to needlessly hurt him as well.

Affirmation for the Two of Wands:  Today I remind myself that I'm already in a strong position.  I take tock of where I am now and look at the big picture as I prepare for my future.

Card 4:  Two of Pentacles - Foundation
With the Two of Pentacles, I see mutual respect in this relationship.  Sometimes you and your partner may have to juggle various responsibilities to allow for quality time together, but it's the quality of time that is always going to be more important than the quantity.  When the two of you have fun, it looks like you really know how to have fun.  And that's an essential spice to the very foundation of this relationship.  It's the aspects of sharing, caring, and fun times that can keep your "honeymoon" phase alive for as long as you want it to!

So many people reach the end of the honeymoon phase of a relationship and then start thinking things are blah or boring.  But I don't see it will have to be that way for you and David at all!  You and he have real respect going for each other, and that in itself is a major foundation for any relationship, as well as communication.  There can be a lot of fun and passion for the two of you in this union.

And here again, there is the concept of all of this "Two energy" appearing in the reading.  That's a good indication for partnerships.  It shows balance in the relationship, and it's an indicator for reasonably equal give and take.  So your foundation of this relationship looks to be healthy.  Relationships are not always easy, but the real question behind everything is whether the relationship is worth it or not.  And this relationship looks like it's worth it for both of you.  You and David are building strong foundations that will help you through any challenges that come along.

The Two of Pentacles shows us flexibility in the relationship.  You are capable of adjusting to the wishes or needs of your partner, as he is to yours.  Compromises can be made so that neither of you end up feeling short-changed.  So compromise and cooperation go a long ways to creating win-win situations in a relationship.  This card is about meeting your commitments, making ends meet, managing stress effectively, and coping with practical responsibilities.  It shows harmony in family life, even among changes.  Choice, change, and adjustment are part of this energy, but you are capable of taking care of business efficiently.  So no matter how busy life gets, you can find time for each other, and can have family time as well.

Affirmation for the Two Pentacles:  I know how to adjust my priorities to create quality.  And when I do, the quantity will naturally take care of itself.  My willingness to adapt lets me create harmony in my life.

Card 5:  Three of Cups - Recent Past
The Three of Cups is showing us some very happy energy in the past six months for you and David!  This is a card that shows us a joyful, social, creative, and happy theme.  Specifically in relationships, this is a very good card to show that things have been growing and prospering in productive and fulfilling ways for you!  The happiness you feel is very real, Johanne!  And it's the joy of good times and the fun you share with your partner that will continue to bring the two of you even closer.

So I do feel that things are set up to just get better and better for the two of you.  You and this man have the ability to work through issues successfully and lovingly.  No relationship is absolutely perfect, because no human being is absolutely perfect . . . but things can still be very, very good!  In fact, they can be great!!

So again, as I mentioned earlier, I feel that you and David are right for each other.  It didn't work out 11 years ago, only because that seemed to be the wrong timing.  The planet Saturn was also influencing David at that time in his life.  And timing issues can happen for two people.  There are always a lot of crazy planetary cycles that cause that kind of thing.

But the bottom line here is that things really feel compatible for the two of you.  You still see things moving forward -- and not backward.  One example is in living together.  And now that you and he do live together, that can mean some adjustments for both of you.  But with the card above, I also see that you both have the willingness and the ability to be flexible.  You both want it to work out.  You have happiness together.  And with the Three of Cups, this is not just "imagined" happiness and love . . . it's very real!  You've taken the love and desire of the past into the present, and are building strong foundations with those essential elements of love and desire.

Even though you've been facing a little bit of confusion or doubt about this association, the Three of Cups shows us that this confusion or doubt will start to lift so that you can more fully see and appreciate the positive results from this relationship that you were once uncertain about.  This is a really supportive and fun kind of energy that surrounds the two of you.  And it looks like the many good elements here are going to outweigh the issues of your past so that you can trust more fully. 

Affirmation for the Three of Cups:  Today I celebrate life, my relationships, and all the goodness that these bring to me.  What I have is worth celebrating, so I raise my cup in honor of my great blessings.

Card 6:  Seven of Pentacles - Higher Power
Your higher power brings you to a time of assessment with much to think about.  The Seven of Pentacles of this reading reflects the influence and wisdom of your conscience and guides.  And so what I see here is that on an inner level, you know that you have something of value in this relationship.  A part of you may somehow feel that something might be missing, but I think that "missing" element comes from that little bit of doubt and difficulty you have in trusting at this point.  You want to trust, but it can be hard when all you can think about in terms of past experience is pain and hardship of some kind.  But there is a higher power telling you that things are better than you might perceive!  In fact, this higher power inside of you is strong, because you felt compelled to move in with him.  Your love and desires are actually winning over the doubts.

All relationships require work from both partners.  In every relationship, there are actually three elements -- you, your partner, and the relationship itself as the "third entity."  And when you have a relationship, you know that sometimes it's a matter of doing what is best for the relationship itself.  Sometimes it's not a matter of doing for the other person or yourself . . . but to check the pulse of the relationship and tend to what IT needs.

This relationship will continue to require nurturing and nourishment -- just like all other relationships do -- in order to be healthy and grow and blossom into what you want it to be.  And when the Seven of Pentacles appears, it's a reminder that there are no shortcuts to growth.  You earn the growth through the experiences and lessons that life brings.

This card also reminds you to make happiness and peace your choice.  Your true power with regard to this relationship lies within your choices.  And the choices you make each day can influence your tomorrows.  You're in a cycle of change in life that will ultimately be to your benefit.  And this is a good time to work on breaking through any blocks that have prevented you from achieving your highest potential in a relationship.  You have a great opportunity in front of you, and it's up to you to make the most of it.  Now is the time to move through your old fears of failure, evaluate the results of your efforts so far, and assess  any past mistakes or obstacles so that you can learn from them -- not dwell on them or convince yourself that the past negativity will just repeat itself.

In your information you sent to me, Johanne, I could strongly hear your worry about losing this relationship.  You are aware of how you keep making accusations.  And that's not how you want to approach things.  You know that within yourself already.  If you choose to continue to let the past rob you of the present and future happiness that is there for you . . . then you can lose a lot!  But you don't have to do that!  I see some great potentials for this relationship, so it's a matter of learning how to let the past go and focus on the present.  You can let the bad apples of the past ruin the abundance of the present, or you can just throw out those bad apples and enjoy the harvest that is available so far.

Now I know that's a little bit easier said than done, but you know what you need to work on, so that awareness is half the battle.  If you were in denial about your weakness that relates to the past, then that would be a real and major problem.  But you have this awareness of what your fears are and how the past is trying to come in and haunt you to ruin a good thing you have.  You'll be someone that you don't like if you continue to let the past interfere in your happiness.  You'll let every little thing become something monumental, and it can drive you crazy.  But the good news is that there is no need to torture yourself that way.

Many times when this card comes up, it is showing how one fails to see what is good!  You can get so busy dwelling on the things you feel might go wrong that you don't pay enough attention to all that is going right!  Things are not as despairing as they might seem when the Seven of Pentacles comes calling in a reading!  In fact, the overall level of the cards drawn shows us a lot of hope and promise for this relationship.  And again, I want to emphasize that I do not see infidelity in this picture at all -- nor do I see a desire or intention for that!  So hopefully this can set your mind at ease, too . . . so that you can put more focus on the positive things of this relationship that deserve your attention. 

Affirmation for the Seven of Pentacles:  In taking stock of my situation, I appreciate the accomplishment that has been made through nurturing, effort, and patience.  I'm committed to being happy and will lovingly keep plugging away -- because in my assessment, I know that I'm going in the right direction to be happy. 

Card 7:  Four of Pentacles - Near Future
The Four of Pentacles will show us which way the wind is blowing for your situation.  This card shows someone who is clinging or holding on to what they already have.  And in situations like yours, a person can be holding on to the past needlessly as well.  So it may take some work for you to really let go of the past, Johanne.  But it's very important that you give David your trust unless he has done anything not to deserve that.  And you can't count the past for what he deserves in the present.  Look at what he deserves from you based on these past six months you've shared with him.

I see that you will need to be extremely careful about jealousy.  I know he texts or talks to women, but if this makes you jealous, the first thing to do is to admit that to yourself.  Consider the fact that jealousy has destroyed many relationships that were otherwise great.  Jealousy can really hurt a relationship -- even kill it!  So watch out for jealousy and possessiveness.  And of course, he should not be overly jealous or possessive of you either.  Having those elements in a relationship disrupts the otherwise healthy balance of a good relationship.  Jealousy often ends up being very unattractive, immature, selfish, and harmful.

The desire for control is the hallmark of the Four of Pentacles.  And while some control is necessary in any situation or relationship, too much control can be harmful.  You need to be in control of yourself and your choices, and allow David to take control of his as well.  And so this card would ask you to carefully weigh the level of "control" that you exercise in this relationship.  Make sure that you don't have to deal with the agony of having problems with possessiveness or jealousy in this relationship.  Use this energy to build foundations -- because it's a relationship I do see you can hold on to and enjoy!  But it's not an energy to use for the purpose of laying claim or "ownership."  We can never "own" our partners in a relationship.  We have to control and take responsibility for own conduct, however.

For the near future and for the outcome position of this reading, we have cards that are numbered 4.  This is significant, as the number Four is an energy of stability, order, structure, and security.  It's a number of manifesting and laying foundations.  Four translates the plans of the Threes into action.  Fours portray the stability that is gained through effort.  So you and David are building some very important foundations for your relationship at this time.  But it's critical that you do not allow accusations, jealousy, possessiveness, or past problems to get in the way and "ruin the party!"

You and David are building solid foundations for this relationship, but it's essential that you release the fears within yourself -- because those very fears, Johanne, can hinder this relationship's growth potential.  You cannot try to hold on so tightly to this relationship that you end up smothering it.  Nothing can grow or be productive within the confines of a small box.  Don't try to build up a fortress of walls in this relationship where you don't let other friends be a part of your life -- including David's friends, too.  For while you might think that keeps a possession "safe," you can one day find that such a thing deemed to be a possession has sprouted wings and flown away.  Don't trap David or yourself and call it a relationship.  There's much better potential for the two of you than trying to live your lives in such a confined or limited manner.

Affirmation for the Four of Pentacles:  Coins have two sides to remind me that there are TWO sides to every situation.  As I learn to let go of fears and unhealthy attachments, I openly allow for growth and abundance in my life and relationships.

Card 8:  Knight of Swords - Blocks & Inhibitions
The Knight of Swords comes up in the position of blocks and inhibitions -- the self-undermining tendencies that can cause things to be stuck unless you examine these issues and make the necessary corrections.  With this Swords energy and the concepts of both communication as well as impulsiveness, you are already very aware of what can be a block to this relationship.  It's something you honestly noted in your information for this reading, and that we have touched on in the cards so far.  This block is, of course, the accusations, the lack of trust, and possibly even a bit of jealousy that may be developing or may still develop in the near future regarding any women that David may have contact with.

Everyone comes into a relationship with friends and associations that they have made through time.  And when we begin a relationship with someone, it's often unreasonable to expect a partner to drop certain friends -- even those of the opposite sex.  In most cases, such friendships pose no real threat to the relationship.  But an insecure female will believe that if her partner has female friends, it's like a disaster waiting to happen, and she may prefer that he cut contact with those individuals.

When we think about it rationally and reasonably though, it's not fair to ask a partner to drop contact with friends he's already had -- just as it would be unfair if he were to ask his partner to drop friends that she has already had.  These are issues that come up time and time again in so many relationships.  And so much of it is needless.  While there can be some cases where such female friends do indeed spell trouble, that's more often an exception rather than a rule.  It's like making someone choose between his girlfriend and his other friends and associations, where he has to literally choose one over the other.

When that happens, a man often ends up saying "To heck with this B.S., I'll just keep the friends I have and not put myself into a position to put up with this crap at all."  When a woman (or a man, since it does work both ways!) is showing too much jealousy, this is like carrying a sign that also shows she is very insecure.  Those insecurities are hard for a man to handle, especially when he's innocent of what the woman either believes, suspects, or is otherwise worried about.  So this is something to really be careful about, Johanne.  This is the true block to your relationship, but fortunately, it's a block that is within your power to overcome!

Now another thing that can block and inhibit the relationship is if one of you pushes for the next step too soon or tries to rush this experience faster than it should go.  For example, the two of you are now living together after dating for six months.  If you decided you want to start planning a wedding, and David isn't yet ready for that step, then you can harm the positive vibrations that exist in this mutual relationship.  Don't push things before they are ready, because that can push things into the wrong direction or can cause steps to be taken prematurely.  And when something is born prematurely (even a baby!), it takes a lot to nurture that into good health.  It takes a lot more work to make that situation grow and be productive in order that it can sustain itself without excess life support techniques.  So . . . the word here is that you don't want to make hasty choices that can throw your relationship on a life support system!  It's not worth doing that to yourselves -- or to the relationship itself!

It seems that you and David really do have mutual goals, feelings, and desires . . . and it is and can continue to be a great relationship for both of you.  But if you are indecisive, controlling, clingy, or needy . . . that's a recipe for losing someone that means a lot to you.  As long as David doesn't feel that you are trying to put him on a tight leash, he is going to be more inclined to continue participating and committing to a meaningful relationship with you.  Men want their women to be strong to some degree, and so huge insecurities are like a weakness that they can't deal with very well -- at least not for the long-term.

In fact, men who are kept on a short leash are the ones who tend to stray the first chance they are able to break free from the confines of that leash.  But men who aren't confined in that way, who have a reasonable degree of freedom in a relationship, are ones that will usually make good choices and will not betray a partner.  Each partner still needs to have the freedom to be authentically himself and herself.  And this idea of "freedom" isn't about running off and chasing skirts or cheating.

Affirmation for the Knight of Swords:  I challenge myself to think before I act -- so that I don't inadvertently go in the wrong direction or miss the goals I'm striving for.

Card 9:  Two of Cups - Significant Other
The Two of Cups is such a lovely card to show us the aspects of your partner.  This man is really in love with you!  And with this card, it's a good indication that, in time, he may wish to solidify the commitment through marriage with you.  He's not with you for the sake of a short-term affair.  He is with you because he means it.  He loves your company.  He loves the person that you are.  And he's someone that you can trust!

David may very well be your soul mate.  And I don't say this lightly, for I have to see some kind of "proof" in the cards to make such a statement.  The Two of Cups is a card that can indicate soul mates, but in addition to this, the fact that you and he reunited from a relationship of 11 years ago shows how the two of you are drawn back together due to a very special connection that soul mates have.  Soul mates tend to do this.  When they think it's "over," it's usually not!

The Two of Cups is a real and outward expression of mutual love for a relationship.  David feels like he has "more" in his life because you are a part of it.  He has all good and loving intentions toward you, Johanne.  He is honest with you, and he is faithful.  And I think if you give him a fair chance, you will come to trust him as you want to do.  The Swords energy of this reading is showing me that it may take some real effort and thought on your part to finally feel more secure and to have that trust.  But while you are working on that within yourself, it's very important that you try not to openly make accusations to David.  Try not to be jealous if he is on the phone or texting.  Unless that is really cutting into limited time that you and he have together, then it's probably not a real problem here.  But in any event, I definitely do not see him cheating with anyone he communicates with.

David feels that you love, understand, support, and appreciate him.  He feels a sense of "us" instead of just "me."  So you are very much included in his plans for the future.  Additionally, he feels romantically, sexually, and emotionally attracted to YOU.  You've got exactly what he wants -- what any man, in fact, wants.  The three things that a man wants in a woman are so simple that they are often overlooked.  A man wants a woman to be sexy -- which has nothing to do with her weight or even how much or how little make up she wears.  Anyone can look good and feel sexy, and it also has a lot to do with attitude.  Being sexy means a woman isn't letting herself go.  She is taking care of herself and she cares about her appearance (which does not mean she has to apply makeup and dress up on her days off -- it doesn't have to go "that far."  LOL)

Secondly, a man also wants a woman to be fun and playful.  And third (with none of these being in any specific order, but just a combination of the three) . . . a man wants his woman to be caring.  You seem to have all three of these essential elements.  They all have to be present, although they can come up at different and appropriate times.  But in a man's view, a woman who is just sexy, but not exceptionally caring or even a lot of fun, is someone he may want to go to bed with . . . but not someone he's interested in calling the next day.  If a woman is playful and fun, but she doesn't care much about her own appearance and otherwise doesn't seem to have a solid investment of caring in the association . . . then she becomes more like the guy's buddy, and he wants her around just for fun things rather than romance.

And finally, if a woman is very caring, but she's not perceived as being sexy or fun . . . then she becomes more like the man's "mother," and that of course will spell problems if a woman is like a mother to her lover.  That just doesn't work out so well.  But when a woman has a combination of all three of these elements going on for her . . . she is very desirable in the eyes of a man.  She's then got everything that a man truly needs and wants in a woman.  So I wanted to share that with you, because a lot of women are surprised at how easy it is to be the kind of woman that is desired by her man.

David feels a special connection with you.  He is seeing the relationship experience to be a positive one.  And no matter what it was that broke the two of you apart 11 years go, past history does not have to repeat itself!  I feel that the timing of your relationship is right . . . and that you have found the "right" man in your life!  It also feels like you and David have the affinity of friendship in this relationship, which is a wonderful component (and really a necessary one) in a love relationship.  Partners need to be friends with their lovers, too.  We try to treat our friends with respect, and so it's a healthy thing for a relationship to also be a friend in addition to being a partner.

David seems to trust and love you unconditionally.  I can see how he is indeed a very sweet, caring, and good man for you through the eyes of the Two of Cups!  There is a real feeling of compatibility between the two of you from what the cards are showing me today!

And so while he may have a desire to further solidify this relationship through marriage, keep in mind the information and advice from the rest of this reading -- and that advice is to let things move at their own pace.  Don't try to rush this process.  I am feeling that in around 2 years (approximately), you and David might take that next step of commitment through marriage.  In the meantime, enjoy what you have!

Affirmation for the Two of Cups:  I learn how to love in the best way through acceptance.  Today, I choose to bring into my life the dream that fulfills my heart and soul.

Card 10:  Page of Swords - Advice
So here we have that Swords energy again, and the Two of Cups (such a wonderful energy) falls right smack dab in the middle of the intellectual Swords energy.  So it's important for you not to over think or over analyze things in this relationship.  We've already talked about your insecurities and fears that you know you need to work on -- because they can be detrimental to this relationship.  And it seems that you have a really good thing going for you in the relationship.  It would be a shame to waste this gift!

Don't take it personally when David texts or speaks to other women.  The Pages of the Tarot are innocents in that they have not done anything wrong, and that's important to emphasize in this reading -- since it's one of the things you were really concerned about in terms of whether he has cheated on you.  And no, he definitely hasn't!  This guy seems to really enjoy talking to people.  It seems to be a part of his nature, and I have a feeling that every person he texts or talks to is not a woman.  He's probably got just as many, if not more, buddies that he talks to instead of it being mostly women.  Either way, they are his friends, and he seems to enjoy communicating.

I think you have reason to just take a deep breath of relief . . . and RELAX.  The thing that I see in this Swords energy is that although David may talk to women and other friends . . . he's not close to them in the way it may seem to you.  The Page of Swords in that regard is more detached and impersonal.  So when he tells you he is only friends with them, he's telling the truth -- for honesty also comes out in Swords energy.  Swords is a tricky energy, because it can be like the proverbial double-edged sword . . . where there is communication and intellect on one hand . . . but conflict on the other side.  And so it's often a matter of what a person makes it to be.  There is always the choice to make mountains out of molehills, and then there is also the choice to not read more into something than what is there.

One of the really positive things about the Page of Swords is that there is often good communication.  So good communication and honesty will be the best policy -- something we all pretty much know, but one of the things that can be easily overlooked or forgotten.  Communication involves really listening to your partner as well as sharing what's on your mind.  And how you communicate is so important in terms of the attitude you convey.  Because it has a lot more to do with your attitude and approach than it has to do with the actual words spoken.  Words can show one thing, while one's attitude shows something else.  You definitely don't have to agree with or believe everything that your partner does, but respecting what he believes (and him doing the same for you) goes such a long ways for great communication and a great partnership!

The Page of Swords energy shows an active mind and imagination, so it's really important not to let your imagination run away with you about things.  Don't read more into situation than what is actually there . . . and definitely work on trust with David.  Look at reasons why you feel he can and should have your trust.  If there are any issues from 11 years ago that destroyed your trust, remember that this is a clean slate now, and it's not fair to hold anything from the past against him, just as it would not be fair for him to hold anything against you from all those years ago.  If you and/or he should bring up problems from way back then, that means that true forgiveness has not happened, and that would be something to work on.  The past needs to be released in order for you to embrace the opportunity that is there for both you and David. 

Affirmation for the Page of Swords:  I learn from my mistakes and experiences in order to improve my tomorrows.  And today, I choose to create a fresh start and a clean slate.

Card 11:  Four of Cups - Long-term Potential
If nothing changes at all in this situation -- in other words, if you are not able to trust David and if you're unable to stop letting your past haunt you and cause you to keep making accusations . . . then this relationship will eventually be in trouble.  I can pretty much promise you that!  If David is falsely accused of things he's not doing, he will come to a point where he sits on that proverbial fence and starts wondering if the grass might be greener "on the other side" . . . and he'll question if perhaps he should actually do what he's being accused of doing.  So just know it will be very dangerous to this relationship to make accusations!!!!

But . . . the great news is if you can follow the advice contained within this reading and work on your weak spots or that "Achilles Heel" so to speak . . . then you can have a great relationship for the long-term!!!  Cups energy predominates in this reading, and this shows me that there is true love between the two of you.  And love is the most important thing for a relationship.  It's not the only thing of course, and love alone isn't enough to make a relationship work -- because both people have to also participate in healthy ways and contribute to the relationship -- but love is a beautiful foundation.  In fact, what would a relationship really be worth if love wasn't a part of it?  There is mutual love here.

Don't get so caught up in the past that it causes you to miss the opportunity that exists in the present . . . and can be there for the long-term.  Make sure that your expectations are reasonable ones in this relationship.  Sometimes a person can have such high expectations of someone that it becomes impossible for the other person to meet such expectations.  So look at what is reasonable for your relationship.  Make sure that you are being reasonable in your assumptions and expectations.  And since a relationship works both ways, he should be doing the same for you as well.

You and David have just surpassed the "honeymoon phase" of the relationship, and now is when you'll know how the two of you can really be together -- and it certainly looks like you can be great together.  The "honeymoon" doesn't really have to end.  It's fantastic for a relationship to keep those feelings alive!  Keep the flame ignited.  And if you are able to get past your inner obstacles that are trying to torment you and ruin a great thing (the fears, jealousy, accusations, etc.) . . . then this relationship can eventually lead to marriage, because there is a strong influence of Two energy in the cards, and that is an energy of unions, including the potential for marriage.

So be patient with David, because although he may not want all the things you want as quickly as you do . . . it definitely appears that he will come to want more of the same things you desire -- including marriage if that is something you want.  Men aren't like women, because they don't start planning things out in terms of, "What would it be like if we get married?"  They just don't move that quickly in a lot of cases.  A few will, but for the most part, men generally seem to just take their sweet time.  They aren't doing that to torment a woman . . . it's just the slower rate of their process.  Pushing a man for more before he's willing and ready tends to just push him away.

There is a great gift in the Four of Cups, and it's yours for the taking, Johanne!!  This card would urge you to take a good look at this gift so that you don't overlook the real opportunity that is here!  The cards indicate that the future of this relationship is largely up to you.  You hold the "world" of this relationship in your hands, so your choices are going to be really important for this association.  Choose wisely, and you'll have the Nine of Cups happiness to fully love and enjoy for the long-term!

Affirmation for the Four of Cups:  I can enjoy even the routines of daily life, because when I see the gifts, blessings, and opportunities that surround me, I know that each day takes me closer to the outcome I want in my life.

Wishing you a world of happiness and love, Johanne!

Many Blessings!

Your Friend and Tarot Reader,

Velvet Angel

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